Table of Contents
Women and Changing Times
The Morning Rush
Morning Rush
Limited Time
We all have 24 hours in a day, 7 days a week, yielding 168 hours per week. Take out 56 hours for sleep (we do spend about a third of our week dead) and we are down to 112 hours to achieve all the results we desire. We cannot save time , it can only be spent-we can spend it wisely, or, not so wisely. Time management classes teach how to categorise the Urgent, Important, Not So Important, Useless. To increase the amount of time available to us each day, we need to work smarter rather than harder.
Time management Strategies
Life Saviors
Even with all the help, a mother struggles to take out time for herself. Jab marne ki bhi phursat nahin hain tu kahen se ek-do ghante nikale apne liye.(when there is no time to die where does one take out one -two hour time for oneself). But the temptation of thinking what would I do if I get those 1-2 hours was too big to resist. Just what would I do if I get those 1-2 hours? Would like Simran mein jee loon apni zindagi. Sochne mein kya jaata hai (No harm in thinking) so what if they end up like Shiekh Chilli’s dreams!( Sheikh Chilli on his way to market to sell his eggs made huge plans but all those were dashed when his eggs broke). So here I go.
Taste of freedom
Dreaming about those 1-2 hour
How to decide? My friend, Kavita, (A big movie buff) asked me to use the trick of finding out whom do you really love?(Close your eyes and the face that comes to your mind when you think of love- 1990’s movie Lamhe-starring Anil Kapoor and Sridevi). I closed my eyes, telling her that I will doze off and I saw.. I saw a class, class full of women and I teaching them! I got up startled, rubbing off the beads of sweat that had come on my forehead. Tried to dodge Kavita’s questions of what startled me and finally I told her. Unlike me she was super excited (she is always excited ,making plans, pushing us to do small things like a potluck with or without family, going for movies, spreading laughter and happiness). “That’s excellent idea”, she remarked. “What’s excellent about it and what would I teach”, I asked. “Money”, she replied. “Money?”, I looked confused.
“You write about money and the other day you were telling Uma about how she should take interest in the financial matters, be aware of her financial position, just not leave it to her husband. This is important not for herself but also for her children. You used a nice quote too” Kavita said. “Do you mean- If you teach a child. you teach a child. If you teach a father, he uses his new knowledge to gain a livelihood outside the home. But, if you teach a mother, you teach a family.” I asked. “Yup that’s the one”, Kavita said, “Yes we also talked about Women (usually) never learns about Banking, insurance, investments (they might be in good job, earning high). Sadly when things go wrong (eg emergency such as husband hospitalized or they loose their husband , divorce) along with emotional pains come bigger pains in life i.e taking care of finances. Then she has no idea on how to invest money for child education, her retirement. She has to rely on others(relatives, friends) and what if she is misguided?.
“Yes, women has lot of apprehensions about learning about money”, I said, “Such as”
- Some else will manage money for me , but are you sure they are managing it well?
- I don’t know enough to do myself : but we learn things only when we come across them: ex: cooking. We started cooking daily, trying new dishes only when we got married.
- I will make too many mistakes: Everybody does!! We make mistakes and learn from them. Computers can never become more intelligent than humans because computers don’t make mistakes
We talked about how women are not afraid of Maths as is made out. And women like Chandra Kochar(ICICI Bank) , Shikha Sharma(Axis Bank) are leading banks.“What more could be apt”, Kavita said laughingly, “Surf removes stains and makes our clothes brighter and you would remove the stains of financial un-awareness and make our life brighter”. “Ha Ha Ha..But where will I find time,” I asked her, “If you reach for the stars, you might not quite get one, but you won’t end up with a handful of mud, either”, replied Kavita. “We will..what about the next tea potluck and you could talk about how learning about finances is like cooking food and all of us get that taste of freedom?”
Note: This post is for Indiblogger Surf excel matic contest:If you two hours in a day how would you spend it.
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Fantastic read….from bollywood drama to real life chaos in a women’s life ….all in one..Paisa Vasool post!
Thanks Lipsy..aapka comment ne dil khush kar diya..mehnat vasool!
outstanding post. perhaps first time i read such a long post and enjoyed so much. didn’t realize that it’s about that two extra hour thing till the second or third paragraph. brilliantly written and such narrations cannot be done in a short post.
Thanks Debajyoti. Glad to know you liked our long post.
great compilation…ur each post is a complete package containing all the ingredients required.:)…all the best dude..
Thanks Ankit. Your comment means a lot to us. We do make an effort to provide useful and if
possible complete information to our readers.
Hey, lovely post. I found this on the competition page 🙂
I loved the reference to Taare Zameen Par. Perfect way to make people understand aspects of a woman’s day to day life 🙂
All the very best 🙂
If you have a few minutes to spare, please do read my entry into the contest, and comment and vote if you like it 🙂
I’d be very much obliged 🙂
http://www.indiblogger.in/indipost.php?post=90039
Oh well,
This one is an interesting take too! It is a tad long, but comes with a sane thought… I like the Taare Zameen Par images!
Thanks for bearing with the length. I loved the movie and the morning rush was nicely captured in the song so thought of using it.
Agree when you say we suck at managing our finances… relegate it as a man thing and expect someone else to manage it for us.
So why not utilize the extra two hours in being money aware! – true that.
Thanks Purba. Women somehow don’t manage their finances..but if they are good enough for other things they are good enough to manage finances too.
Nicely compiled! kajol’s dialouge from DDLJ is epic!!
All the Best:)
Thanks Dipesh. DDLJ is an epic by itself. All the Best to you too !
That’s what a women is… beautifully compiled post.. Best wishes to you..
Someone is Special
Thanks…loved your post too!…
Good one. Frankly looking at the title, I did not expect it to be that interesting 🙂
I was pretty good at maths but I just hate handling money, I have been enthusiastic about earning well though( before I took a break for the kids). Glad to see someone like you take so much interest and sharing knowledge:-)
Thanks Bindu. Glad you liked it.
Most of women are scared of Maths and so you already have an advantage.
We are also in learning stage..made this so that I can understand and explain to my kids 🙂
ya that kajol dialogue at the time seemed so sweet & endearing but later on it bothered me. how nicely you’ve started from there and connected it to the theme of the contest!
super! but is that any surprise any more?
Yes I agree with you, things change with time.
Thanks a lot Sujata. It is so difficult to write for contest now as the pressure to give reader a good
post is more than when I started blogging. Can empathize with Sachin Tendulkar how he feels when he
goes to bat.
Here is a post which talks about everything! Women, time, life saviours and life itself… Quite a helpful and informative post… a must read for all! iRecommend 🙂
superb content with pictures. i like it.